TEDx “Rock Star” Reading Recommendations

by Ruth G.

Sarri Gilman has topped the charts on TEDxSnoIsleLibraries with over 9,000 views (and counting) for her talk, “Good Boundaries Free You”.

In her decades of experience as a boundariesfamily therapist, Sarri has seen hundreds of people go from being overwhelmed, exhausted and stressed out, to becoming people who trust themselves, are decisive, and committed to healthy relationships, by knowing what to say “yes” to, and when to say “no.” The key is to pay attention to your inner compass and trust that it’s trying to take care of you.

Listen to Sarri’s TEDx talk, or read her book, Transform Your Boundaries, to find out how to keep that inner compass strong.

Regular self-care is essential to creating good boundaries. Giving yourself time to read what you enjoy is a fantastic way to care for yourself.  So, what does Sarri read?Sarri Gilman for web

“I thrive on a reading diet of mostly memoir. After being a therapist by day and listening to real people talk about their lives, I love to go home at night and read stories about people’s real lives. You’d think I’d have enough of that, but no actually, I can’t seem to stop. I also read “psychologyish” books that help us through the hard stuff, but I have to kiss a lot of frogs to find the ones worth recommending. Lastly, at least once a month- a new knitting book.”

Here’s a list of her favorites:

saved by a poem

Saved By a Poem, by Kim Rosen – “this book is a surprising treasure. It got me through the most difficult part of the TEDx talk, memorizing it! It is a beautiful book on the significance of memorizing and orally sharing poems. If you are looking for a new thing to practice and deepen your connection to yourself and others, this book will help you understand how memorizing and reciting poems, etc, connects us to each other.”



mud lotus

No Mud, No Lotus, The Art of Transforming Suffering, by Thich Nhat Hanh – “I like a book I can reliably count on to help people. No Mud, No Lotus is extremely helpful about understanding suffering. I think everyone should read it at least twice.”





Gut, by Giulia Enders – “Great book explaining many things there were mysteries to me. You will be thankful for this read and find lots of ways to help your gut.  I found the squatty potty life changing.”






Paula, by Isabel Allende – “This is my favorite memoir of all time. Much of the beloved House of the Spirits rose from roots of Isabel’s family. Isabel sees the mystical in ordinary moments and is brave enough to write about it, as if it were all incredibly normal.”




being mortal

Being Mortal: medicine and what matters in the end, by Atul Gawande – “If you read only one book in this lifetime, this is the book to read. It will make you think about what makes life worth living, aging, and medicine.”




writing alone

Writing Alone and With Others, by Pat Schneider – “I love to write and this book is my writing companion. Pat just understands me. Whenever I need encouragement or help getting unstuck when I am writing, I open this book.”




knit sky

Knit the Sky, by Lea Redmond – “this is Knitting book for this month. Playful is the best way to describe it. Use the outdoors to inspire your creativity, fun ideas to push your imagination while knitting.”




Firekeeper, by Pattiann Rogers – “Everyone should have one poet they love with all their heart. This book never leaves my bedside.”






Creativity, Inc, by Ed Catmull – “I love stories by entrepreneurs- this is a great story behind the scenes look at Pixar, imagination, teamwork, and defining leadership from the inside out- rather than the outside in.”




breath air

When Breath Becomes Air, by Paul Kalanithi – “This memoir is so beautifully written. Paul is a neurosurgeon and a writer. One day he is the doctor, the next he is the patient. He had a very brief amount of time to get this writing to the page, and you shouldn’t miss a word of it.”



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